Co-dependants often wonder who they are. They may wonder how others perceive them and not understand what is normal. They should be able to identify their own thoughts, feelings, or own actions separate from those of others, but they have learned from childhood to organize their thinking and behavior around someone else. A codependants recovery is often hindered because they tend to go into denial and externalize themselves. Codependants tend to be attuned to the feelings of others but unaware of their own. They deny their own wants but accommodate the needs of others. There are several steps to recovery and recovery can be accompanied by stress and anxiety with the temptation to slip back into your old habits.
- Codependents are more in touch with the feelings and needs of others than with their own.
- Growing up in a dysfunctional family can interrupt the process of becoming an individual.
- Journaling can make a codependent more aware of their own needs and wishes by tracking feelings during the day
“Ideally, our true self emerges in the normal course of becoming an individual…”